Thursday April 26, 2007

     Our pediatrician finally called last night around 8:00.  She worked in the night clinic yesterday so she didn’t get our message about my son until quite late in the day.  Since she was going to be off today, she spent quite a bit of time last night before she went home leaving messages and pulling strings to have my son seen in Orthopedics this morning to have his shoulder evaluated.  It’s always so nice to finally reach your own doctor who knows your child and who knows the sort of parent you are. 

     We ended up with a 10:00 a.m. xray appointment this morning, followed by a 10:30 appointment with the orthopedic doc.  He was great!!  A chatty, energetic older man, who is great with kids!!  It turns out that my son’s collar bone is cracked right at the point of the worst pain and where the hard lump is.  The lump is there from the swelling caused around the break.  The reason his xray looked distorted to me, and the reason it has looked like his shoulder was drooping,  is because he was “self-slinging”, or holding his shoulder in an unnatural position to alleviate some of the pain.  It all makes sense, now, but I sure wish someone would have picked up on more of the clues earlier in the week. 

     The tough part is that he needs to “take it easy” for four weeks.  The good news is that the collar bone is cracked, not broken, so if he does do more than he should, he really won’t do any serious damage.  If he does too much, it will swell up again and really, really hurt, but no further damage will be caused!  No bike riding.  No trampoline.  No tree climbing.  No hanging or swinging from stuff.  No wrestling with his brother, or his dad or our dog.  I decided the boy needed something to look forward to, so we stopped by Target on the way home and bought a new Lego set.  He and his brother are playing Risk right now.  I know that the fun of a new toy, and the sympathy of the older brother will soon wear out.  We’ll have to be on the look out for things for him to do in the coming weeks.  I may see if I can wiggle a few bucks out of the budget and pick up a couple more “surprises” for him to have when the days get long and boring in the coming weeks. 

     It’s been interesting, to me, to go through this with my son.  I jokingly refer to him here on my blog as being ADHD/OCD/QRS/TUV/WXY&Z; but the reality is, life is just different for him.  The exam room today was a bit cool, but not freezing; but my son was so cold his teeth were chattering and his bones ached.  Both times we’ve been in the medical building this week, he’s remarked at how noisy the building is.  He’s not talking about the sounds of people walking and talking, he’s talking about the sound of the building.  You know, that dull hummmmmm that’s caused by the cooling systems and such?  Most of us don’t even notice the hum, but it’s LOUD in my boy’s ears.  Irritatingly loud.  Cover his ears loud.   Today I had to help him navigate the crowded hall ways, because following the pattern on the floor was frequently steering him into oncoming pedestrians.  He immediately complied with my instructions, and was always embarrassed that he’d done it; but the pattern of the floor was just too enticing and his feet would soon be following it again. 

     You know, I’d love to have that sort of perception.  Imagine being able to hear the background noises clearly, or to see a pattern in a marble floor that was laid without pattern.  I’d love to see the bird that had somehow found its way into the halls of a crowded medical building.  To have that sort of perception, though, I’d have to obliterate out everything else and that would not be possible for me.  I would not be able to function.  My son, though, can not only see the “everything else”  that I see and hear, but he can also see and hear all the other stuff – the building hum, the pattern in the floor and the bird -all at the same time!!!  This keeps him in a state of information overload and he reacts by being really, really “busy”, and quite often, really, really LOUD.  

     By God’s grace, though, he is learning.  He’s learning what is appropriate in certain situations.  He’s learning that when you’re hurt, you are supposed to cry, instead of being brutally angry.  He’s learning that when you’re nervous you should just stick closer to mom and dad instead of talking nonstop to every stranger you encounter.  He’s learning that when background noises are irritating that it’s best to try to tune it out rather than covering your ears and shutting your eyes.  He’s learning that when he’s excited he needs to be especially careful to keep his voice at a normal volume.  He’s even learning that when someone tells a joke that you don’t get, it’s polite to laugh.  My prayer is that one day he’ll even learn to “get” the jokes!!   

God bless you as you look well to the ways of your household!
Proverbs 31:27

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6 comments to Thursday April 26, 2007

  • Praying for your son!

  • I will be praying for the little guy. Yepparroo…I often asked God just WHAT WAS HE THINKING give me my ADHD boy in middle age? Of course now, the sweety uses his hard earned money to take his mom out for breakfast once in awhile! Turns out God knows what He is doing. :love:

    Christopher also has the ultra sensitive hearing. It’s almost (not quite) to the point of autism. One of the reasons we like the junior college is they’ll let ADHD kids (who have a doctor’s official diagnosis) take their tests in a separate room so they are not distracted by sounds.

    Christopher hears everything around him and even at seventeen, he finds it hard to filter sound.

  • “He’s learning”…that’s the best thing that he can be doing!  Some don’t ever learn so every time our little ones with troubles learn it is a huge fete.  We will be praying for him to take it easy and that he will “learn” another way to get all those wiggles out.

    ~C

  • Your son sounds like a wonderful boy, Cheryl! I will pray that these next 4 weeks go quickly and smoothly. It will be tough not to be able to do those rough and tumble activities!
    Kelli

  • So glad you got to the bottom of this! Those collar bone incidents can take a while to figure out, as mentioned earlier, we had one once too.  Glad to hear it is nothing more serious!