Grace is a gift from God, given freely.
- It’s not something we can earn.
- It’s not something we can buy.
- It’s certainly not something we deserve.
And yet God gives His grace to us freely. As a gift. Ephesians 2 is a great place to read about this.
We accept grace from God, but do we extend it to others? Do we hear the words of Jesus when He says,
“In everything, therefore, treat people the same way you want them to treat you,
for this is the law and the Prophets.”
(Matthew 7:12 NASB)
We want to receive grace, but we are not so swift to extend grace.
We want others to extend grace to us in areas where we may not be in agreement. We yearn for that grace and we’re hurt when grace is not forthcoming.
Do we, then, remember to extend grace to others? In all circumstances?
You see, I want folks to extend grace to me in matters where our standards are different on non-biblical or extra-biblical issues like
- the sorts of books I read
- the type of music I enjoy
- the amount of jewelry I wear
- the sorts of activities my kids enjoy
I need to remember to extend grace to others on those same sorts of issues.
Where it gets hard, though, and where I think we all do a poor job, is when it comes to extending grace to those that we feel haven’t extended grace to us. When others don’t show us grace, we feel judged and condemned and it hurts. In fact, it cuts deeply and those wounds are often slow to heal, especially, as Dani says, “when we keep picking at our scabs”.
That, dear ones, is when we must remember the huge debt paid by Jesus at the cross on our behalf. We don’t deserve His grace and we don’t deserve to receive grace from others.
Perhaps someone didn’t extend grace to you when they might have, but that is not your load to bear. Your obligation is to love them and extend grace to them, seeking nothing in return.
I know this is hard. I’ve struggled with this mightily for quite some time, and I know that it will continue to be a struggle. Sin is like that.
I want to dwell on grace, remembering that while we yearn to receive grace from others, they’re yearning to receive grace from us. I want to remember to extend grace and speak grace and dwell on grace.
Grace-less words, whether they’re spoken or typed, hurt, and they do not glorify God. Grace-filled speech is lovely, and edifying and pleasing to the Lord.
Think on grace. Speak grace. Dwell on grace.
God bless you as you look well to the ways of your household!