REBOOT: Why the Blog Went Cold and Why It’s Warming Up Again

At the beginning of this little REBOOT series, I promised that I’d try to explain why the blog went cold, or dark, for so long. Here’s what I said then.

“I’ll be posting an explanation of why the blog went cold and, frankly, why it’s been so hard to write for the last few years. There’s a lot of raw emotion caught up in that, but it needs to be said. I want you to know….you need to know….. how big grace really is.”



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I have prayed and pondered and struggled and pondered and prayed some more over writing this post. It would be super easy for me to yield to my flesh and just spew out all of the hurtful things that were said, and done, that caused me to back away from any sort of online presence. But I’m not going to do that. In fact, I’m going to purposely avoid any sort of finger pointing or blame shifting. Instead, I will simply confess that the blog went cold because I bowed to the fear of man, rather than pursuing the will of God in my life. It really is just that simple.


But you know what? Realizing that, and then understanding that God still opens his arms to this wayward child, is how amazing and big grace really is!

His grace is bigger than my failing.

His grace is bigger than my fears.

His grace is sufficient to heal the hurts caused by others and to truly know in my heart that I love them and forgive them.

His grace means that I can be free from taking offense at the speech or actions of others.


Though I’ve not finished it yet, John Bevere’s The Bait of Satan: Living Free from the Deadly Trap of Offensehas given me a lot to chew on. (I totally dislike the title of this book. The subtitle is a much better fit, though I guess it’s not quite as catchy.) My friend, Sheri, of Meaningful Home Life, recommended this book just as I was starting this REBOOT series, and it’s been very helpful to me.

Here’s a quote that I highlighted early in the book,

“If you stay free from offense you will stay in God’s will. If you become offended you will be taken captive by the enemy to fulfill his own purpose and will. Take your pick. It is much more beneficial to stay free from offense. – John Bevere”

His words are pretty strong, and they may cause you to cringe a bit. I cringed! Though the words are harsh, I think they bear a lot of truth. And if I’m being honest, I have to say that living free from constant offense is a whole lot more fun than allowing every little, or BIG, thing to offend.


So. This is certainly not the explanation that I intended to write once upon a time, but it’s the explanation that I can write with a clear conscience, knowing that what is past, is past, and that grace……God’s amazing grace…….allows me, and you, to pick right up where we left off, as though we’d never missed a beat. There is freedom and peace and great joy in that!

All photos are from the “lost coast” in Northern California, taken in August, 2014.


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33 comments to REBOOT: Why the Blog Went Cold and Why It’s Warming Up Again

  • Diane

    That was beautiful. When I first started reading this post I thought…Oh, some juicy news coming. But then, while reading the quote by John Bevere, my heart changed. I felt a peace, as softening, a joy just wash over me. And it felt so good! I’m going to lprint this quote and put it on the bathroom mirror for a while.Thank you for sharing!

  • Jill

    Thank you. Perfect explanation and sooooooooooo glad you are back!

  • Jennifer

    Our ladies Sunday School class started this series in September, I think. We are slowly making our way through it and it is an incredible series! Can not believe (and yet, I SHOULD!) how timely each lesson, each question, each Scripture is! Blessings to you—you have been missed!

  • Alesha

    What Diane said ^^^.

    So happy you are back,

  • Rosemary

    I have truly missed your presence in blogland. I am so glad, that with the grace of God, you are able toshare and blog again.

  • I have known more people who have stopped writing blogs due to what others have said than for any other reason. I came close to it myself a few years ago!

    I like John and Lisa Bevere’s writings but that particular book was also recommended to me when I was experiencing something similar (not blog related). John was led to the Lord by one of the men who started the church I was attending.

  • Beth

    I have been a faithful reader for a good many years now. So thankful you have returned. The quote very much
    Spoke to my heart, life has a way of being disappointing at times but the love of our Saviour never fails us. I believe
    When I first started reading I had one baby, God has blessed us with 3 more. Now and then I hear many negative things
    About people who live in California, but I always think of you and your sweet family and know that God loves some special
    People in California.

    Love and prayers, Beth J.

    • Thank you, Beth! I love hearing how long folks have been reading, and I love, love, love hearing about growing families! California is a crazy state, and we shake our heads often about the things that happen within our state. But, it’s home. Copper and I have both lived here our entire lives, and all four of our kids, and all eight of the grandkids are within an hour of us. I think we’ll stay.

  • Merechel

    Your blog has ministered to me and encouraged me so many times–I am thankful that you are back, and so sorry that you were hurt.

    • I’m thankful that God has used this blog to minister to you, Merechel. You know….I’m really THANKFUL for what I went through. God used it to show me His grace and love, and He taught me an awful lot about extending grace to others and how he intends for me to live. It was painful, but it’s all good!

  • Summer

    So glad you’re back! I really enjoy gleaning bits of wisdom from your blog.

  • Debra

    i think God is amazing and your awesome. Enjoy reading your blog. Love the sincerity and honesty

  • Sandy K

    You are a joy to read. I am glad you are back.

  • Jo

    Your blog has blessed me in many ways. I’m sorry that you were hurt, so glad that you are back. Keep writing for as long as he would have you do so.

  • Michelle W.

    I’m so glad that you’re back and while I’m sorry that you experienced some pain at the hands (or mouths) of others, I do believe that those are the things that often cause us to really have to put our trust in the One who will never let us down.

    I love the book you’re reading (and a couple of others by John Bevere)-it’s been about 12 years or so since I read it and I’m thinking that maybe I need to read it again.

    • Yes, Michelle, exactly! As I said to Merechel in a previous comment, I am thankful for the experience. It taught me so much about grace and how to filter out all of the external influences and to narrow my focus more closely on Him.

  • Karen

    Glad you are back! May God’s peace be with you.

  • HomemakerAng

    I have been a reader for a very long time! I have not checked in for quite some time but I find some irony in my life with yours xo I have experienced some of the same things it sounds like. I also have read the “Bait of Satan” book years ago. I should pull it off my shelf again 🙂 Lots of love to you! keep on writing for Him xo HomemakerAng

  • tammy

    Dear Cheryl,

    Oh i am so so happy to see you are posting again. I had checked for a while and missed you. Just found you again!!!! SO SO SO thankful!!! God’s grace is matchless, and amazing, and i just stand in awe!!! Lord bless you all, thru all the changes and the hurt, with peace and joy!! You have handled the hurt with much grace and it is a beautiful example to us all. I am so glad you are back!!! 🙂

    • Tammy – Thanks for being a faithful reader. If you like, you can subscribe to the blog, via email, and not have to worry about checking in for new posts. They’ll arrive right in your inbox.